Hi, everyone this week we are looking at fear of abandonment and borderline personality disorder.
We all must deal with the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship as loss is a natural part of life. However, people with BPD live in fear of such loses.
People with BPD tend to think the following thoughts, you’re going to leave me, you don’t really love me, or you aren’t here for me.
Those with BPD can have tremendous fears of rejection and being abandon to the point they may sabotage themselves and relationships. The fear they feel can be real or just perceived but it is highly intrusive.
So it isn’t uncommon for the suffer to assume people will leave them, this can be caused by past evidenced of people leaving them or could just be a more general belief that they can‘t trust others and will end up being hurt.
A simple tiff with a loved one may trigger an abandonment response.
Those with BPD are essentially waiting for their loved one to leaved them which may cause them to withdraw, lash out, threaten or even in some case harm others, which sadly reinforces the likelihood of being left.
Suffers of BPD often feel empty inside and if the feel someone is going to leave them, they can become fearful and angry, lashing out first.
It is not a good idea to give the BPD suffer ultimatums or threaten to leaved if their behaviour doesn’t change this will only make them test the limits you set.
More next week.
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Hi, everyone this week we are looking at fear of abandonment and borderline personality disorder.
We all must deal with the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship as loss is a natural part of life. However, people with BPD live in fear of such loses.
People with BPD tend to think the following thoughts, you’re going to leave me, you don’t really love me, or you aren’t here for me.
Those with BPD can have tremendous fears of rejection and being abandon to the point they may sabotage themselves and relationships. The fear they feel can be real or just perceived but it is highly intrusive.
So it isn’t uncommon for the suffer to assume people will leave them, this can be caused by past evidenced of people leaving them or could just be a more general belief that they can‘t trust others and will end up being hurt.
A simple tiff with a loved one may trigger an abandonment response.
Those with BPD are essentially waiting for their loved one to leaved them which may cause them to withdraw, lash out, threaten or even in some case harm others, which sadly reinforces the likelihood of being left.
Suffers of BPD often feel empty inside and if the feel someone is going to leave them, they can become fearful and angry, lashing out first.
It is not a good idea to give the BPD suffer ultimatums or threaten to leaved if their behaviour doesn’t change this will only make them test the limits you set.
More next week.
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Dearest Jo-Anne,
Can’t concentrate on all the text as I’m overwhelmed with caring for my Pieter in the end stage of his life… He is at home in a hospital bed. He collapsed again on Thursday on the bathroom floor and bleeding from his face and hematoma on side of head. No stitches like on April 13. It is so hard to see your loved one having to suffer like this. Will administer his morphine again and that calms him down and lets him sleep…
Hugs,
Mariette
I am so saddened to read this of course Pieter comes first, my blog will still be here whenever you have the time for it. I am pleased he didn’t need stitches after his fall. Yes it would be extremely hard for you to watch his life fade away, I remember how mum was during the last months of dad’s life. You and Pieter are in my thoughts and prayers.
Thanks for your prayers Jo-Anne and don’t worry, I won’t drop you as I in fact admire you and a lot of other blogs I just skip as their content is of less interest or importance…