A Smack Is Not Abuse In My Opinion

As a child I was smacked from time to time and when my girls were little they were smacked also from time to time and I for one belive there is a big difference between smacking and child abuse to me a firm smack or two on the bottom is not abuse it is discipline yes I do smack my grandsons if they are really naughty but it is now and has always been a last resort. After I have smacked like around 10-15 minutes later I will go and speak to the child and ask if they know why they got a smack and if is it needed I will ask them to say sorry, like if they have hit or hurt someone or even the dog I get them to say sorry yes I have made them say sorry to the dog because I want them to understand that dogs have feelings and can get hurt just like a person can. I do not believe in smacking with a belt or anything other than your hand………….

So many children grew up with little to no discipline, they grew up cheeky and feeling that they were intitled to everything without having to work for it and can do whatever they feel like without any consequences. Thankfully my daughters who are all mothers feel that their child need boundaries and set rules and discipline and even though they do not like to smack, realise that sometimes it is needed……………

Yes I know this may piss off some people and some will think I am abusing my grandchildren when I resort to a smack on the bum and that is fine they are allowed to have their own opinion.

Have I Changed……………..

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I saw on Wendy’s blog a post about how a persons personality can change as they age and this made me think about my own personality  and I do not think I can answer whether my personality has changed as I have gotten older. I think that is best left up to those who know me and who have know me for years to answer.

I do not think I am any different the I was when I was say in my 20’s I am older and in some ways wiser and of course I am a lot more mellow the I was in my 20’s, things don’t bother me as much as they use to I am far more laid back.  Or as my mum would say I don’t sweat the small stuff as much as I did when I was younger, but is that a change in my personality………………you tell me……………

 

28yrs and Counting…………I Love You Tim

Today it mine and Tim’s wedding anniversary we have been married for 28yrs today and I have to say that for the most part they have been 28 great years, please note I said for the most part because like all couples we have had our problems.
When our daughters were young there were so many times when I would be just so exhausted at the end of the day and Tim couldn’t get it and because I was so exhausted I would react to some of the smallest things and fly off the handle and go all ape shit over nothing………….lol
Tim of course was just the same and this is why I think so many couples break up in the first few years because having young children leads to exhaustion and exhaustion leads to over reacting and that leads to fights and that leads to misunderstandings and that can lead to a break up of a relationship.
Being about to work through problems takes patience and understanding and sometimes being about to walk away when things get stressful instead of letting it turn into a screamming match where you end up saying things you don’t mean and will regreat.
You know I can honestly say that after 28yrs of marriage I am still in love with Tim and hope to grow old with him.

Just A Poem……….Thoughts Are Free

This is a poem I hear while watching a documentary about the Holocaust and like it so much I wanted to share it

 

Thoughts are free, who can guess them?

They flee by like nocturnal shadows.

No man can know them, no hunter can shoot them

with powder and lead: Thoughts are free!

I think what I want, and what delights me,

still always reticent, and as it is suitable.

My wish and desire, no one can deny me

and so it will always be: Thoughts are free!

And if I am thrown into the darkest dungeon,

all this would be futile work,

because my thoughts tear all gates

and walls apart: Thoughts are free!

So I will renounce my sorrows forever,

and never again will torture myself with whimsies.

In one’s heart, one can always laugh and joke

and think at the same time: Thoughts are free!

I love wine, and my girl even more,

Only her I like best of all.

I’m not alone with my glass of wine,

my girl is with me: Thoughts are free!

Say It And Forget It Write It And Regret It

Now days we have social media sites Facebook and Twitter and you know so many people are so clueless about how their words can hurt another person they will post updates and status’s without thinking things through and end up hurting someone or causing a online fight………………..and yes even I have done it.

Now everyone who knows me knows I do not have a mean bone in my body and I would never intentionally hurt someone or cause a fight but it has happened. Although I do try to not post things that will cause problems there have been times when I have left a comment to someones status and that person will take offence and before you know it there is an online fight……………

I do not think people should use Facebook or Twitter when they are angry because you are more likely to say/write something that will cause more trouble then it is worth.

Then there are those who have been on the news and such lately who just seem to like to write mean and hurtful things to people they do not know, I don’t get that but then I am a normal person and I think people who do things like that are not normal………………….because really do normal people like to attack people they don’t know just because someone is on television or in films doesn’t mean you know them and that doesn’t give anyone the write to say or post mean and nasty things about them.

Facebook and Twitter are great they make the world and even smaller place but honestly you should really think before you post something that could cause more problems and if you wouldn’t say it to a persons face you shouldn’t post it about them………….

Are You Always Out And About Or Do You Like To Stay Home And Do Nothing Much

Are you someone who thinks they should always be busy doing something and find when you have nothing to do then something must be wrong, or that it makes you lazy or something? When in fact it is ok if the only thing you are doing is breathing…………………..

I find it is often nice to just sit outside in the sun and watch the traffic go by or some days I will sit and put my feet up and have the television turned off and just sit and do nothing for a while and I find it so relaxing……………

I use to go out nearly every day for many years but in the last few years I have found that I no longer want to go out that often and have days when I no longer leave the house in fact there are weeks when I only go out on Wednesday to see my nan and Friday to do my weekly shopping and that is enough for me.