There are times when I wonder if anyone notices how much I do for others, and there are other times I know they notice and they appreciate how much I do more or less.
However I have had times when I have thought what if I just quietly vanished for a few days, would they notice, would they miss me.
I think many of us have times when we feel invisible, like we are just part of the furnishings. I know I do and yes there are times when I feel like I am being taken for granted. My girls often seem to expect me to just be there for them and that I shouldn’t be busy doing other things, I should be able to just drop things at a moments notice and do what they want.
Yes I know part of this is my fault because I so often do just that, drop what I am doing to help them out, or change my plans to accommodate them.
That said I do wonder if they realise how much I do for them, or how often I change my plans for them.
The think is though I don’t think I am going to change, I am a giver, meaning I like to do and give to my family and for the most part I do not expect much in return but that doesn’t change the fact that at times I get upset and let down like on my birthday when no one things to get me a cake. I know it is a silly thing but it does bother me and I can’t change that it is what it is.
So do you think you are noticed, does it bother you if you are not.
7 thoughts on “Being Noticed”
This is a good post. There are those who do for others, selfishly. They do want the accolades. Others, do out of guilt, and/or the need to feel good about themselves. Others, as you, and I can tell that your heart is in the right place, do for others in a selfless manner. Hey, God knows what you do, and why. He notices. You wonder whether or not those you do for, notice? They might not tell you, but they do. The sad thing about all this, is the fact that they expect you to continue doing so. Well, you know why you do it, and that’s all that matters. You are a winner. Blessings.
I don’t often get guilted into doing stuff………………….thankfully………..
I do not expect things in return for all I do it is just now and again that I get down and feel like a doormat but I bounce back pretty fast thankfully. I know that my family notice I just have moments when I feel like they don’t
Whenever those moments hit you, just sit back, relax, and look at the positive results. If not for you, who would do for your family? No one. I salute you. blessings.
For some reason unselfishness often seems to make other people even more selfish. My mother, for instance, does a huge amount for one particular side of the family and the more she does, the more they expect. They never offer to help her and she is nearly 80 now! I don’t get it and I wish someone had thought to get you a cake, birthday girl!
I know where you are coming from, there are those I know who are in fact like that the more you do for them the more they expect from you and you never get a thank you.
Aww Hugs to you! Who gets more taken for granted than a mom? Even a simple thank you would be nice, right?
Yes I chose a thankless profession